Monthly archives: April, 2016

Lady Dates

Tonight I am going on a date with a woman. She is lovely and smart. This is not the first lady date I’ve had and certainly won’t be the last.

I haven’t talked about it all on the blog at all. (If you’ve heard me read, I’ve told the story about the first woman I dated briefly.) I never kissed a woman until I was 30 and didn’t really have much interest to until now. When I started the blog 3 years ago, I certainly wasn’t dating women. But I now want to be clear that my writing about my dating life will not only be dudes.

So I suppose the slap a label term on me is bisexual. I don’t really like this term as it implies half and half, and most of my dating and sex life has all involved men with a few exceptions. I’m a big believer in the Kinsey scale and the Idea that sexuality is fluid. I’m not making excuses, but I’m more attracted to men than I am women, but I’m exploring that some more.

I don’t see myself in a long term relationship with a woman, just like I don’t foresee long term relationships with many (well most) of the men I date. But really who knows? Love is pretty blind and I think I will probably fall in love and end up with a man, but I suppose I’m open to it.

Sexuality is an odd thing, ever changing in ones’ life. This all feels pretty new to me. People talk about knowing they’re gay at age 4. I didn’t know I was somewhat attracted to women until I turned 30.

So I asked her out and chose the date, place, and time (I take my own advice!). I’m looking forward to it, but admittedly am a bit nervous. There are all these rules for what the guy does (pays the check, opens the door) and what the girl is supposed to do (offer to pay the check and say thank you when he says no), but there are no rules for girl dates! No rules! My brain and how I think about dating is completely heterosexist.

So I plan on just having nice dinner and conversation with a smart and beautiful lady.

-Melinda